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Key to happy relationship

Relationships are always 2 way

Kitney ajeeb rishtey hai yaha pe
Do pal milte hai saath saath chalte hai
Jab mod aaye toh bach ke nikalte hai ....................

(How bizarre the relationships are here
People meet and walk with each other for a brief moment
They feint, walking away, when any turning point comes..................)

A beautiful song from Page 3 on FM as I drove back home after dropping the kids to school. Relationships are very strange I thought. Strange because they are the ones which give us the most beautiful moments of life while they are only to be blamed for our sufferings. Great relationships are great not because they have no problems, but because people involved truly care for one another.

A few days back my mother asked me to dial a number for her (she does not own a mobile phone). I asked her if it was urgent. She replied that it was not urgent but important.  I dialed the number and handed over the phone to my mother. I could hear one side of the conversation. My mother was thanking the lady for having sent a box of alphanso mangoes from her farm. The mangoes were very tasty as I had also tasted them. She continued talking other stuffs and hung up after sometime. I told her that she did a good job having called the mango lady and having thanked her. After all she had bothered to send over the mangoes. There was no need for her to do so.

My mother felt good. She said that the other day she was mentioning about the mangoes having been sent in front of another relative of ours. And how it was a sweet gesture of the mango lady to send over the mangoes. She added that the mango lady never sells the mangoes of their farm but distributes it among their friends and relatives.

I was all ears to her though I was driving. She said that the relative in front of whom she mentioned about these things was not very happy having heard the praises of the mango lady. Why so I questioned.

My mother explained. The listening relative was closely related and stayed close by to the mango lady but the mango lady never bothered to send them mangoes any time. I just replied with a hum.

There was silence for some time. My mother broke the silence. She said relationships are not just like that built. We need to show gratitude for the small gestures of kindness. Relationships are always two way. Egos and jealousy can ruin best of the relationships.

I was digesting the words of wisdom and experience from my mom. I thought creating and destroying relationships are very easy, what is difficult is maintaining them in good health. It is very true that people will never notice what good we did to them but they will never fail to point at what we did not do to them.

I realized that learning to ignore a few things that we do not relish of others is a key to a happy relationship. We had reached our destination and I stopped the car.


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